March 2002

I think it is virtually impossible to explore WIITWD without developing your own take on various topics. As stated at the front of this site, even definitions are subject to individual interpretation and debate. Since I started this site, I have written about some of the topics that were important to me. As with anything else, your mileage may vary–in some cases, my own opinion has changed since I originally wrote a piece.

Please note that many of these pieces use feminine pronouns. I am a domme and, so far, all my submissives and trainees have been female, so it’s what I’m used to. The points I make apply to “he”s as well as “she”s. Pages that are not dated were most likely written prior to 1999.

Basic Questions
Basic Terms
Dominant Heart
The Nature of Roles
Total Power Exchange
On Training
Protection Agreements
Hard Core & the Dark Side of BDSM
On “Safe, Sane, Consensual”

Online BDSM
“Real Life” & “Online Only”
Online Collars
Negotiation & Safe Words in Online Scenes

Less formal views on various topics can be found in my regular Perceptions page. Check the Perceptions Archive for a topic list.